Book Subtitle: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy and Commitment.

With such a catchy title, close to 4,000 reviews and a total of 4.4 stars out of 5 on Amazon, you would be tempted to read Steve Harvey’s book on romantic relationships.  The author made a name for himself as a love guru. Well, this is what I discovered in googling his name because, pardon my ignorance, I did not know Steve Harvey before stumbling on his book.

Think Like A Lady, Act Like a Man-What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment – by Steve Harvey

If you’d checked my ‘about page‘, you know that I’m in the country not for so long — since December 2003 to be exact. It takes a while to get familiar with the celebrities of the country, but every once in awhile, I stumble across a superstar and it’s very exciting.

While reviewing Steve’s bio, I was taken aback. How would you feel if someone who was with his third wife would give you any advice on finding your perfect soulmate? Yes, right?! I don’t know about you, but I tell you that I was a little skeptical at first.

On the other hand, the sheer number of good reviews is too hard to ignore.

Aaaaaaahhh, since Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is dealing with relationships, I decided to read the book anyway and see all by myself what’s about the fuss.

Actually, I was really surprised. The book is written in such a way that it’s as if Steve was discussing with you. The book is conversational, direct, with no fuss. In short, it’s an easy read.

On the other hand, I lost traction somewhere in the middle and let the book unopened for a few days. Not that I was busy. Just that after a while, I was tired of Steve Harvey style and the fact that he’s telling the reader how to do it based on his failed experiences.

Left QuoteThere is no truer statement: men are simple.  RIght Quote

Steve Harvey, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy and Commitment

Slowing my pace of reading the book was good to ponder on the content, and it helped to looked at the positive overall message. Because Steve Harvey lack the credibility of longevity with a spouse, his book is a must read for anyone in search of the Mr. Right. Steve has a lot experience in dating and understanding what should be aware of the man’s nature.

Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man covers many good areas that are essential for finding the Mr. Right. From describing the mindset of a man, why they act the way they act, up to winning the game and getting proposed. Steve Harvey also is very direct. The book is not for the faint hearted who has issues with sex before the wedding — and even after.

Yes, men think differently than women, and it can be confusing when a woman doesn’t know it. It can bring to deep deception or worse, an emotional breakdown. Be also warned, the book addresses many issues that, to a certain extent, might lead you think “com’on Steve, who doesn’t know about this?! I’m not that ignorant.” But everyone has his own balance of knowledge, experience, and lack thereof.

Left QuoteBut remember what drives a man; real men do what they have to do to make sure their people are taken care of, clothed, housed, and reasonably satisfied, and if they’re doing anything less than that, they’re not men.  RIght Quote

Steve Harvey, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy and Commitment

There is also a section for singles with kids, including when to bring the children into the relationships. Real good advice.

What could you find annoying with the book? He assumes that when you have a bad relationship with your mom or dad, then you’d better run. Hmm, not every man is blessed to be in good terms with his parents, and it does not absolutely mean that this guy will be a bad husband. I know that because this is my situation. I love my parents, but they are not my best buddies.

Respect is more important than the implied ‘good relationship.’ Asking further questions to the man about his ‘bad’ relationship with his people will help the lady know more and decide if that guy is worth it.

Another area of interest is the last chapter which is a FAQ section. On one hand, you’ll like most of it, on the other hand be aware that this is Steve Harvey’s personal opinion. For instance, on the question of “How do men feel about plastic surgery, weaves, colored contacts, […]?”

Left QuoteMen respect standards — get some!  RIght Quote

Steve Harvey, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy and Commitment

Steve Harvey thinks the average man is okay with everything. That’s not true. I don’t. Unless I am not part of Steve’s “average man,” though I believe I am, otherwise you’d see me on Forbes or People magazine.

To summarize, Act Like a LADY, Think Like a MAN  is a thumbs up for understanding how we men think and act. A down-to-earth writing and a good conversation with Steve Harvey who learned the hard way and is so generous to share his wisdom.


If you read the book, what did you think about it? What’s your favorite part?


Disclaimer: This review is provided graciously. I’m no affiliate of book retailers or other third parties and was not asked to write about this book.